At this life stage during
our 20-30twenties/thirties, we are
still too young to talk about real friends or old friends.
If you say "this is my old friend and we have known each other since
our childhood", then our parents may laugh at us, "hahaha I also
got have a couple of old friends and I
knew have known them for 50 years..."
How about real friends? It is more difficult to say. How about those who share happiness with you? they could be real friends, but some just show off; and how about those who call you
for hanging out to hang out with you each weekend? maybe some of them are just friends you can
play (
play is usually used only for children.. here, you could say "kill some time"/"spend some time"/"hang") with;
as for people
who only come to you when they need help or
are stuck in trouble, they
are of course not
real friends..
So far I think real friends are those who you feel comfortable
staying being together (staying is more like if you sleep at their house) with(they don't stress you), those who can understand your heart, and those
with whom you can
tell share your heart
with.
There are so many people we come across in each life stage. We come across so many people in each life stage. (This phrasing is more fluent) We never know the total number of people
exist in life,
and only a small number of people become our real friends. Compar
inged with the large number, the small group is worth
our best treasuring.
I don't spend much time
on hanging out with many people, because I prefer a one-to-one meetup or a small group, in which way you
do communication communicate but not laugh
ing and jok
ing. Hmm it does not mean I spend no
-time on that, because it still feels good to see some people you seldom meet, it is a good way to make new friends, either getting re-connect
ioned with old friends, and the most important thing is to have new ideas.
(this sentence is a bit fragmented, but I think I see what you mean - maybe you should split it up in separate sentences and explain it better?)
I agree, it is more important to focus our time on those few close friends who make us feel good about ourselves and life. Those who give us positive energy and those who will always be there, no matter what. But I think there are two levels of socialising. For me, there is the close circle of friends who I talk with every day or at least every week, no matter where we are in the world. I can only think of around 3-4 people who fall into this category. But no matter where I am, I still go out and talk to people, and chat with people on FB/Skype/Gchat etc. I think these connections are important too, for learning new ideas and for maintaing contact with people who may be able to help you out at some point (or vice versa).
ReplyDeleteBut I think I am more of an extrovert than you :-)