老师

做老师这份工作根本不容易。

我以前做过72个学生一班的初中老师、小学老师、幼儿园老师、成年人老师和大学家教。我最喜欢做家教或者成年人老师。这不是说教小孩子没有意义，但是我觉得教小孩儿需要大一点的力气和爱心。我最爱的是转达内容的意义，而因为小孩子的想法不一样所以这不是我最喜欢做的。

因为我自己以前做过各种各样的老师所以我也能理解大学老师们的处境。但是很多老师连自己的ppt也不做，只看书作者的ppt来讲课，考试同样从理念和选择填空来看学生们有没有理解课程的内容。看他们一点也没有做，那就会觉得他们非常的懒。有的时候觉得自己可以相处更好的，更有意义的，书外面的例子，但是他们只讲ppt上面的。那可能是因为做老师和转达内容不适合他们？不应该是和任何人。但是我们大学的老师只有知识的基础而没有当老师的基本考试货怎么样。所以没法确保我们大学的老师能否帮助我们更好的学习。

有的老师真的知道他们讲的课的内容，真的能让每一个学生觉得上课有道理。像现在，我上的环保课的老师从世贸来，她给的例子非常适时，也不觉得我们是小小的笨笨的学生。

Teacher, teaching

Let me talk about something irrelevant first. In the my early days, I also did this kind of writing exercise on different topics given by a teacher. Last time I didn't like that it, because I did not know what to write on those topics, because (I felt like?) most teachers do not understand their little young students. They have only rights or wrongs in mind, how do us we romantic& imaginative students get those monsters pleased?

Unfortunately I continuously meet teachers/professors/tutors of that kind. Half a year ago I took a course about strategy, guess how what our exam was like? basically we were asked to memorize all the theories and their corresponding theorists, and the exam questions are all like "what's XX's theory on organizational management? " "How does A affect B according to XX's model of...? "

If the intention of teaching and learning is to bear those that kind of knowledge in mind, is our the tuition we paid pay to school/uni too expensive high?

Maybe I should not scold on my teachers, because most of them have only learnt the knowledge but not how to teach. Such a sad thing.

The teacher I respect most is from my high school. She conducted a politically brain-washing course combined with economics and some basic philosophy, which every Chinese student has to pass (it was funny that although no one believed in that but we still have had to memorize the whole book); Of course I cannot remember what's in the textbook anymore, but my teacher's way of teaching is was just so impressive, the course content could be as dull as you imagine, but she can could just make it alive and vivid bring it to life. Besides, the most important thing is was that she loved her students and never discriminated on against those with low grades,. Not all of us liked this course, but no one hated it, and all of us liked her very much.

My teacher, Ms Ding also told us many things happening outside of the classroom, most of which were real life stories, no blah blah at all.
She treats her students like her friends, not silly people who need to gain knowledge and get a certificate.  She teaches by doing and behaving, if she wants us to be honest, she does not lie to us.
She never forces us, she will always tell us the importance of doing that something, if we don't like it, she will always be there listening to listen to us.

It is hard to find such a teacher nowadays, even harder in a university. They give lectures, they go; Most students want to graduate and get employed, that's all.

Friends

At this life stage during our 20-30twenties/thirties, we are still too young to talk about real friends or old friends.

If you say "this is my old friend and we have known each other since our childhood", then our parents may laugh at us, "hahaha I also got have a couple of old friends and I knew have known them for 50 years..."

How about real friends? It is more difficult to say. How about those who share happiness with you? they could be real friends, but some just show off; and how about those who call you for hanging out to hang out with you each weekend? maybe some of them are just friends you can play (play is usually used only for children.. here, you could say "kill some time"/"spend some time"/"hang") with; as for people who only come to you when they need help or are stuck in trouble, they are of course not real friends..

So far I think real friends are those who you feel comfortable staying being together (staying is more like if you sleep at their house) with(they don't stress you), those who can understand your heart, and those with whom you can tell share your heart with.

There are so many people we come across in each life stage.  We come across so many people in each life stage. (This phrasing is more fluent) We never know the total number of people exist in life,  and only a small number of people become our real friends. Comparinged with the large number, the small group is worth our best treasuring.

I don't  spend much time on hanging out with many people, because I prefer a one-to-one meetup or a small group, in which way you do communication communicate but not laughing and joking. Hmm it does not mean I spend no-time on that, because it still feels good to see some people you seldom meet, it is a good way to make new friends, either getting re-connectioned with old friends, and the most important thing is to have new ideas. (this sentence is a bit fragmented, but I think I see what you mean - maybe you should split it up in separate sentences and explain it better?)

老朋友

什么是一个老朋友？
一个普通朋友什么时候可以成为一个老朋友？

现在在土耳其有一个老朋友来看我。我们是小学时候一年级時候认识的，那时候我五岁她六岁。现在我二十四岁她二十五岁。已经认识十九年了！也上同一个高中的。
我们不是那种一见面就是成为最好的朋友，但是虽然我们没有住在同一个国家，但是我们每年都有见面，她以前到中国、瑞典看我，而现在在土耳其。她就是我的最老的朋友（“她就是我真正的老朋友”。“最老的朋友”是在强调你们认识最久，但是你的意思好像是强调你们关系最铁？）。虽然我们的生活不一样但是我们有同样的一个背景，互相认识对方的所有男朋友（“所有男朋友”：你是认真的吗……感觉你们以前都有过很多男朋友，哈哈哈！）、学校、朋友等等。

除了她，我没有认识这么长时间的好朋友。facebook上当然有很多认识了很长时间的人，但是我不会说他们是老朋友，就会说他们是facebook朋友。经常会讨厌他们写的无聊的东西（呵呵呵，就是的：p）。

那，在瑞典和新加坡见结识（最好用“结识”，你用“见”，80%意味着你以前已经认识了这些人，只是又在新加坡见面）的朋友是否是老朋友？有的只认识了最多两年，但是有的真的会觉得我们会一辈子都继续做朋友，真的有老朋友的感觉。这些人知道很多关于我的故事，而和现在见面认识的人相比，他们就是好朋友。但是两年以后能说吗（但是两年以后，现在是老朋友的人，还会继续扮演老朋友的角色吗）？

可能是因为我老了（你在开玩笑吧，年轻人！）所以我现在更好的能（能更好的）估计谁会成为老朋友？
也许还不知道，只能试一试看以后谁成了老朋友。

Money

Last time one of my most respect person the people I respect most told me: money is not evil. I don't remember the reason that why he said so. It could be something related to the fact that nowadays people are so eager for making to make money without any considerations.

I agree with his viewpoint(one word). Money is an object, it could be whatever anything would be more colloquial in written language depending on its owner. We are money's master/ we are money masters and money could have human nature characteristics.

My sense about money is originally from my parents, I'm also curious as to how it is like (how it is/what it is like) in other cultures.  It might be funny to you that my father says that if you can well spend money well, you will well make money well; however, my mother holds a different view, which is bit opposite to my father's. She thinks that a family should try its best to save money for important things and emergency use, and she does so.  She was critical on of my spending habits when I was a little girl, because I liked to buy some little things that you don't know where you to put them up after buying; though sometimes I think my mother is speaking of herself.....

I get got to understand my mother as while growing up. Like most Chinese parents, they save money for their children's education. My parents are not rich so they have had to plan carefully for the family.  I also realized that my father's words were not encouraging me to spend money, he just wanted me to have a happy childhood.  Thus I always bear in mind that to buy what is in need to buy only what is necessary for so as not to burden my family as long as I have not officially started making money;   when I get a job I'll start to support supporting my parents as well.

Basically I think savings is are necessary for everyone, and it is better to save money yourself for your future life, people should not be forced to be included in the pension system, but taxation can offer help to those who cannot work and support themselves.

钱

我们都知道钱很重要。不过，不同的人会有不同的对钱的想法   对钱有不同的想法。我自己为什么觉得重要呢？

很久以前没有钱，但是也没有像现在这么多贸易，尤其向外对外贸易。钱可以用来购物，谁都需要，谁都能用，所以可以换成任何他想要的东西。比方说，很久以前没有钱，要是我养牛来交换自己所需要的东西，不是所有的人都需要，而且不方便带。牛也只可以换给一个人，或者切几块换米粉、衣服等。也不可以存很长时间。所以钱这个东西是有用的，但是抽象来讲，钱重要不？

在生活中，跟朋友出去的时候，我觉得谁买单都无所谓。要么就我买要么就你买。可能这个月我给的多一些，下个月少一些。不是一个很大的问题。我喜欢给。我的钱比你多我就高兴的多给，你的钱多，我多让你给（就让你多给一点）。当然，要是很长时间 一直 or 长时间以来 都是我给，朋友当中有一个人和我们 其他人的钱一样多但是从来不给，这可能会让我觉得他/她不礼貌。但是这只在很长时间的过程中发现  只能和朋友相处久了才能发发现。

昨天我跟几个朋友出去吃蛋糕喝咖啡，到了要买单的时候，他们开始算谁吃了多少，用了很长时间讲是否你应该给多一块，或者我给多一块 no grammar mistake this sentence, if you want it sound more native: 谁该多付一点，谁该少付一点。我在桌子上放了十五块土耳其币，说，我多给无所谓，你们下次给吧。但是他们没有同意，还继续浪费时间讲什么是谁的。

还有一个例子，在高中的时候有一个咖啡机，每一杯咖啡或茶三块丹麦克朗。真的不贵。有一天，我少了带半块丹麦克朗，接  借了朋友的钱。这真的是小钱，所以我在再没有去想它（过后没有想起来）。过了一个星期那个朋友问了我，她的半克朗为什么还没有回还给她。让我无法理解。。对钱的概念真的不一样！这可能也与文化与性格有关系，比如中国人爱请客，丹麦没有这个习惯。

跟男朋友出去又是一个有意思的话题。很多人觉得应该是他 男人付钱。丹麦比较重视公平 平等，出去的时候向 像朋友一样，有时候你给，有时候我给。或者分一半 对半分 or AA制。
我来自黎巴嫩的男朋友爱多给 我的黎巴嫩男朋友买单付钱比我多一些（“来自”很书面，你这篇文章比较生活化，所以换个词比较好）。他工作，我是学生。他从来不会让我多给。虽然我是丹麦人，但是他给我的感觉是好的，因为感觉到他能照顾我（虽然我是丹麦人，接受男女平等的教育，但他这样却也给我很好的感觉）。

我觉得钱不是生活中最重要的。对我来说，最重要的是朋友、爱情、心感、快乐、让别人高兴。没有这些的话，钱是起什么作用呢？

我需要一份给钱的工作 可以赚钱的工作，但是我的幸福比钱要重要。到了一定的程度（够吃、住、基本旅游、负责孩子等）以后最重要的是时间，不是钱。有时间享受生活、做好妈妈、学生（一整生活一辈子都应该继续学习）、爱人朋友就是生活中最重要的。

How to Deal with Difference and Similarity in Culture

Thanks to a friend for the gentle reminder reminding me (gentle reminder is more formal, like when the university sends you a reminder about having to register your courses or whatever.. generally friends don't give gentle reminders)... why do we exchange students go overseas, is it all experience about the difference? about experiencing differences?

We listen, we talk, we observe, we judge. Mostly we only see the differences, and our emotions and presumptions are act like a magnifying lens.

In fact where we put our attention on counts very small. What we give our attention to does, in fact, count for very little/ in fact, what we pay attention to counts very little. Last time (here, do you mean "a while ago" or "recently"? It is quite a Malay/Singaporean thing to say "last time" about any period in the past. If you mean "last time you saw me" they you should say "last time I saw her", add a description of last time you did what) a friend of mine who travels a lot told me these simple words for which my heart were deeply touched which touched me deeply: "we're all humans." (who is that? haha oh I wouldn't know ;-))

I'm not saying not to look at the difference differences. It's cool to speak about that especially in terms of culture and it's probably the most prominent reason to travel. But what's the point we stand at But where do we stand? Do we take it look at discrimination as a sources of hurt, opposition, discrimination, or instead as harmony and friendship? Think it over when we want to share sharing opinions, particularly when to the public. Being polite must be a principle applied. Being polite is of utmost importance (principle applied is quite formal again, and this sentence sounds better)

Think why and no hurry to complain don't complain without reason, learn to analysis analyse and appreciate:)

photo frm: 林美石磐步道Linmei Shipan Trail,宜蘭@台灣Yilan@Taiwan

行旅的生活和朋友

title: 旅行生活和朋友

这么长时间没有写博客！没想到时间会过得这么快。雅芳最后写的关于佛教的文章是去年的十一月份写的。快一年了！这一年过得怎么样呢？（哈哈，这一年十分有意义！）

这一年我学会了很多东西。因为是大学生所以当然学会了学校里的东西，但是更重要的是也学会了关于自己的东西 （ 也学会更深入的了解自己）。（我明白你的意思，但是我觉得可以修改的更完善，以后遇到这样的情况，我在这里提供alternative, 让句子更简洁/通顺/漂亮。另外，在中文修改里，我用浅灰色代表删除吧。划横线有时看不清—_—）

一二 （2012。这样可能会误会成12 years）年在新加坡开始了，到了（刚到）新加坡的时候认识的人很少，而且心里面的感觉是非常想要好朋友在我身边（你是不是想说：我心里很想念最好的朋友，想要他们在我身边 or 我心里感觉 需要有一些要好的朋友陪伴在身边）。所以我刚到新加坡的那时候我每天都出去玩，跟着其他的留学生出去看城市（逛），跟其他的留学生在晚上的时候聚在一起喝酒。

这样见到很多人的以后,我发现，他们的故事和希望(期望,do you mean expectations)都差不多，他们好像觉得出去喝酒很重要，自己一个人在一个新的国家是一个很新的机会，等等。而且我发现，瑞典的学生喜欢跟瑞典的学生在一起，美国的学生喜欢跟美国的学生在一起，丹麦的学生喜欢跟丹麦的学生在一起，等等，没有很多人会一个人出来找别的朋友（没有很多人会离开舒适圈，主动认识来自不同文化背景的朋友）。

虽然我认识了很多人，但是没有感觉到真的找到朋友（找到真朋友），没有觉得有人理解我。他们的爱好不一样，他们对不一样的文化（do you want to say 文化差异）的感觉不一样，有的还没有出过国。。他们还继续了过（还是选择继续）这样每天party 的肤浅的日子。。

我却不是。我通过三个很重要的步（步骤）做（过）出我自己的生活，学会了自己喜欢什么（了解/懂得/明白  自己   喜欢什么/真正的爱好），和找到了一个非常非常好的，能理解我的朋友，加上另外几个很好的朋友，甚至还找到了一个非常暖心，可爱的，聪明的男朋友。

第一步:  爱好。我最大的爱好就是音乐。所以我开始找地方可以弹吉他唱歌可以弹吉他和唱歌的地方。于是找到了很多当地的本地朋友，很多让我高兴的令人兴奋的音乐机会，甚至找了一份吉他店里面的工作。音乐重要因为是为了我自己而做的音乐对我来说很重要，因为我是为了自己的爱好，不是为了别人，不是因为别人让我做的，就是因为我自己喜欢。

第二步: 少一点的好一点的朋友（不需要太多关系密切的朋友）。 在新加坡的时候发现了遇到很幸福的事情。通过couchsurfing的朋友见到了结识一个非常好的朋友，还有一位三年前在一个马来西亚的岛见的人成为一个很好的朋友(还和一个三年前在马来西亚的一个岛上认识的人 成为好朋友)，还有一个瑞典的朋友的朋友的朋友等介绍给我认识我现在的男朋友。这样的幸运为什么发现了为什么会遇到这样的好运气？因为我停止做不让我高兴的事，花我的时间在好朋友的身边。

第三步: 旅游。我每次一个人出去旅游更能理解我自己都能更进一步理解自己。去了越南，中国，印度尼西亚，马来西亚，泰国，等等。看了了解新的文化，见了新的人，但是很重要的但很重要的是终于感觉到自己需要一个家。到最后，向第二步一样，觉得越少越好。以前旅游是为了找到自己,但是现在觉得可能找到了，需要稳定下来，慢慢旅游，好一点的更好的享受生活。

现在可以在我土耳其的新家用我学会的这三个部分我现在可以在土耳其实践一下这三步（I delete 新家 cuz it implicates tht you wanna settle there?），我走的这三个步。我没有必要把所有土耳其的东西都玩完，我没有必要认识很多新的朋友。我已经很幸福，会有这么好的机会，这么好的朋友。可以放心一点的，稳定下来，继续自己生活，be myself :-)